Wednesday, December 30, 2009

There's a world outside your window

Christmas is my favourite time of year.  I grew up in a family that celebrated the season with gusto, belting out joyful carols from the beginning of December and leaving stockings hanging by fireplaces for as long as possible in January.  Christmas for me means noisy family get-togethers, far too many mince pies and giggling under duvets late on Christmas eve. 

With so much happiness during the festive season, it's easy to forget that not everyone is having such a happy holiday.  One person who is having a particularly trying Yuletide is Brandy from 20 something bloggers.  She didn't ask me to post this, or even send me this. I saw it on one of her reader's blogs sarah-bration and re-posted it here.  Brandy, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your 'hot awesome dude'.  I pray that a little Christmas miracle comes your way.

xxx
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My name is Brandy. And I have a blog.

And a plea.

I use my blog to showcase the crazy I meet everyday, share the stories of the kids I teach and document my love for tequila, dairy products and the abdominal muscles of Ryan Reynolds. Rarely do I talk about personal issues on my blog- as personal as the dude that I adore (who I actually met through my blog- single ladies, let that be a very good reason to blog, the possibility of meeting someone as wonderful as my man), but I need your help. And it involves my dude.

He’s a guy who made math comics for my class, so they would love learning about addition. He’s the kinda guy who sends my friends gift cards when they are having hard times, who remembers every story I ever told him, who was the first person I celebrated with when I got a teaching job. He’s the guy who sent flowers to me at school- dozens of my favourite pink roses just because he loves me. He’s a guy who has spent a year patiently explaining (and re-explaining) everything there is to know about football during the important games when silence is preferred. He’s made me word puzzles and comics and stayed up late playing Scrabble with me (even though I beat him almost every time). He’s listened to me cry about school and family and jobs. He is everything I never knew I needed and everything I always knew I wanted.

The holidays have hit us hard. He’s recently been told he may have something called multiple myeloma- an incurable cancer, that gives a person an average of five years of continued life. Though this news has came as a shock, he continues to be exactly who has always been- spending his time worrying about me, rather than worrying about himself. He’s the most selfless individual I know- (he stayed late on Christmas Eve to work, so his co-workers could leave early) and a post like this would never be something that he would promote or encourage but when I’m overwhelmed and feeling helpless, the blogging community has always given me tremendous support and comfort, two things I desperately need at this time.

As I write this, the future is uncertain and we aren’t sure what’s happening. He’ll need to see an oncologist soon, to verify what’s going on in his body. My hope is that everyone who reads this think positive thoughts and if you are a person who prays, could you add him to your list? (You can refer to him as ‘brandy’s hot awesome dude’). If you don’t pray, please keep him in your heart.This cancer is only a possibility and I believe that the prayers and positive thoughts of people can make sure it never becomes a reality.

I want to give a big thank you to the blog owner who scraped their original blog plans and graciously put this up. My goal is to get as many people as possible to see and read this post. If you are reading this and want to help, copy and paste my plea into your blog or send a link through twitter, so more people can keep him in their thoughts. I would be so very grateful (even more grateful than I am to my friend who first showed me the picture of Ryan Reynolds on the cover of Entertainment Weekly. If you haven’t seen it, google it. You. Are. Welcome).

I realize this all sounds dramatic, a Lifetime movie in the making- but this is life. Right now. And I’m throwing away any hint of ego and am humbly asking for you to pray or think kind thoughts. If you are able to pass this on, thank you and if you know anything regarding MM- please email me (my email is on my blog). This isn’t a call for sympathy or a plea for pity. It’s just one girl hoping you can think positive thoughts for the person she adores. If my current heartache provides you with anything, let it be with the reminder that life is short, love is unbending and no one knows what could happen next. Maybe it is silly, but I really do believe that positive thoughts can make a huge difference. Thank you for reading this and if you haven’t already? Please tell someone you love them today.

I did.

6 comments:

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

glad you had a lovely christmas- i'm sending all my love to miss brandy and her man.

The Misadventures of Miss Manship said...

Glad to hear it and thanks so much. I hope you had a wonderful Christmas too, Chelsea! :-)

Elle said...

Thank you for your comment. I hope you had an amazing Christmas. :)!

I've lost count how many blogs I've come across with Brandy's plea, but it doesn't stop bringing a tear to my eye. My prayers are with her.

Looking forward to reading more of your blog!

Andhari said...

Blogosphere is really powerful in communicating this message. I've read a lot, my thoughts go for her and her man.

ps. I noticed you're a blog friend / reader of Cheryl from Confession Of Twenty Something Years Old. Me and a bunch of friends are trying to get her to be featured in 20SB for February. So if you have an account in 20-Something Bloggers please help vote for her. All you have to do is visit here and write "I vote for Cheryl from Confession Of Twenty-Something Years Old" or "I second this nomination" :D

thanks so much before, I hope you can help / participate too :)

JennyMac said...

Wow..this is moving. So sorry to hear about his and sending positive thoughts. Hope 2010 has good things in store.

The Misadventures of Miss Manship said...

Thanks so much for the comments, let's all keep Brandy in our thoughts and prayers. And happy new year to all... and to all a good night ;-)
xxx